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I love my Father .This is first time in that I forget the Birthday of my father and I accept that this is my fault no excuse . I learned a great deal of worldly knowledge from him . he is vivid reader of history books and is money wise to get the best Value […]
Saying “No” does mean that you are rejecting some one but you are rejecting the proposal order direction etc. Because it is you who is the person from your intended ”YES” You are the only one who is going to affected. No one can make you inferior without your consent .”NO” body can make you force To Utter ”YES” if you want to
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To be successful in your life it hardly matter that what the successful persons were doing but it more important to know and learn from the mistake of the others . There are only two classes of people who never make mistakes,—they are the dead and the unborn.
We often go back in memory to some fork of the road in life and think what would have happened and how wondrously better it would have been had we taken the other turning of the road. “If we had learned some other business;” “What happen If I stay in England in 2003;” “If we had married the other one who was my first love ;” “If we had bought stock of leading companies now 5 years back ;” “If i had chosen a different career option or trade;” “If we had only spent certain money in some other way,”—and so we run uselessly our empty train of thought over these slippery “ifs.” That may change the position of ours in present day .But we should know that there is no mean or way till now that we can go the past and change our already taken options because the past does not belong to us any longer ; it is only the present that is ours to make as we would wish. The present is raw material; the past is finished product,
In my opinion India is a failed state 80% indian are second class citizen. 90% talent got wasted because of lack of good value and education system .We blame everybody in our life but we fail to blame our self .We fail to choose our role models . I strongly recommend to choose your own heroes of your chosen field as your own life teachers .You must study those icons and their life .You are living in informational age thought travel faster then the light .You have search engines on the internet .
You must think I have one life to live and for me all things are possible. What others have done, I can do .How lucky I am to have this optimism Take your quiet time – write your goals – divide the goal in to achievable small goal with each marked with clear timing and conquer – and start studying your heroes -I mentioned famous people but if you choose to look, there are many wonderful role models all around you see and you think.
Why do some people fail even if they have all the education talents and abilities ? the biggest reasons is They are afraid to act. They keep asking questions, but they are really hoping for an excuse not to act. Most people will tell you what they think you want to hear. If you act squeamishly, friends and family will tell you to be safe and not buy. There are others who will be jealous of your success and will tell you not to buy. There will be those who really don’t care what you do. They only want an opportunity to tell you either how great they are or how stupid you are.
Man’s attitude towards his own mistakes has various reasons and some are peculiar; some do not see them; some will not see them; some see without changing; some see and deplore, but keep on; some make the same mistakes over and over again, in principle not in form; some blame others for their own mistakes; some condemn others for mistakes seemingly unconscious that they themselves are committing similar ones; some excuse their mistakes by saying that others do the same things, as though a disease were less dangerous when it becomes—epidemic in a community
The worst mistake is to do nothing or to take action based on insufficient information. Research and think. You have investigated Research and think plan and then act have the feedback make improvements again Research and think plan and then act and this cycle should be repeated over time and again
Throwing a ball is an instance of action; it involves an intention, a goal, and a bodily movement guided by the agent. On the other hand, catching a cold is not considered an action because it is something which happens to a person, not something done by one
In physics, action is an attribute of the dynamics of a physical system. It is a mathematical functional which takes the trajectory, also called path or history, of the system as its argument and has a real number as its result. Generally, the action takes different values for different paths. Action has the dimensions of [energy]·[time], and its SI unit is joule-second. This is the same unit as that of angular momentum
Physical laws are frequently expressed as differential equations, which describe how physical quantities such as position and momentum change continuously with time. Given the initial and boundary conditions for the situation, the solution to the equation is a function describing the behavior of the system at all times and all positions within the set boundaries.
In life too you have to challenge your own boundaries .You need to be uncomfortable You should involves an intention, a goal, and a bodily movement. You have to take different path.
July 1987 ,Our Family was bestowed with gift from god and gift was birth of my younger Brother ,to whom I love .He was little he was funny and the best thing is i was no longer the youngest member in my family . I become more responsible about taking responsibility and caring.
July is important as in this month one great thinker born in who missed out Initial shots in INTERNET ERA He was Kicked off from Direct Marketing association and he form the idea of permission marketing ,He is none other than Seth Godin .He is really deserve to be in my HERO beyond Borders. He is blogging from more than 26 years.
“I think the most productive thing to do during times of change is to be your best self, not the best version of someone else”
You are at your best when YOU are just YOU. You are more convincing and people around you trust you more support you more if your actions are reflections of your originality .That’s why initial idea always flourish .
“Dig your well before you’re thirsty”
It will give you a more leverage no matter it might be growing YOURSELF professionally or personally. WE can see the power of small saving schemes ,raising the kids with ethics .people might laugh at YOU but you know it and believe in your GUTS .This is supported in the bestselling book on “Dig your well before you’re thirsty” by Harvey Mackay . In which he explain your readiness and preparation for your personal or professional success by the power of inter connections and networking
“You have everything you need to build something far bigger than yourself”
YOU are the BEST creation of the almighty. NOBODY can stop YOU becoming BIG create NEW explore NEW or UNKNOWN. your impact is GREATER than you think in this Shrinking era of DIGITAL world. Your BEST Product is YOU . You was created by your parents but becoming best version of you ,you don’t require anything other than YOU.
“Faith in yourself, in your friends, in your colleagues and most of all, faith in your ability to impact our future is the best strategy I know”.
In bible Matthew 13.31 it is written that “. The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed that a man planted in his field” and that seed is FAITH and the field is ones mind.
“Game of monopoly every time give you a new opening to start from scratch and plan your new strategy “
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On 14 April i.e one legend was born .His name was Bhimrao …..Later he turned out to be one of the greatest Scholar of all times ,Who was major architect to create constitution of INDIA and work for unprivileged sections of Society and still are consider untouchables in certain part of India .
People even went to western countries learn new things but they are still in glitches of narrow-mindedness of cast-ism and narrow mindedness.
I would like to share his inspirational immortal beautiful thoughts ….which I think are more practical teaching than any of the religious books ….
” Life should be great rather than long.”
Know Why you are here What are YOU doing ….Make YOUSELF accountable for YOU and take some action
“I like the religion that teaches liberty, equality and fraternity.”
There no BAD religion in the town only the interpreters or followers can be misguided
“I measure the progress of a community by the degree of progress which women have achieved.”
“Cultivation of mind should be the ultimate aim of human existence.”
“Men are mortal. So are ideas. An idea needs propagation as much as a plant needs watering. Otherwise both will wither and die.”
Do something … Create Something … Share Something …. May be some day somewhere…. it will inspire Someone ….. Your digital words have unimaginable lasting effects …..
“The relationship between husband and wife should be one of closest friends.”
Sparing sometime is easy once you are in initial years of marriage but as the time goes you don’t find time to spend with your soulmate …Do it NOW …. Your never know Tomorrow You will see the rising SUN or NOT
“So long as you do not achieve social liberty, whatever freedom is provided by the law is of no avail to you.”
I would like to add here social liberty of society can’t be achieved without increasing economic security as Dr Ambedkar himself that told once if there is fight between ethics and money most of the times money wins … that is the root cause of all social evils like pollution , corruption and so on …
“Law and order are the medicine of the body politic and when the body politic gets sick, medicine must be administered.”
But like medicines it does not cure the cause but suppress for some time complete eradication can be difficult and only be archived by changing ones. Habits and rituals
“Political tyranny is nothing compared to the social tyranny and a reformer who defies society is a more courageous man than a politician who defies Government.”
World is changing and even when you are sleeping or gossiping What you do where do you live Who you are doesn’t matter if you are not doing something to change you … You can’t change the world alone but you can change You … and I would appreciate your small change which will help You or the things or people around YOU ….For me You are champion .. If nobody cares about You or recognize your effort still You are doing great …
If You are not doing anything ….. Still world is changing but your stack in it …. Believe me you are nothing more than a count in population and ….. in other words a liability on the earth ……
EACH ONE CAN CHANGE THE WORLD IN HIS /HER OWN WAY
You are nothing but a piece of shit .if you think so .The world doesn’t care who you are what do you do? What do you eat? Where you live? What are your living standards or living style? .If you don’t have standards for you .However it is good to know “Who I am?” as well good news is that you can lead yourself to journey with me which can leads you find who you are ?
I will make that easy for you .I can’t change you or transformed you. What I can help you is to ascertain what are the values that you live by and can help you to shift your focus from the things which you do in your daily routine that can leads you to in a sphere where you can meet your true self .
If you are here on this blog. I will take care of you. I will start slow and simple tasks or may be performing certain activities but to explore the things you need to know why you want to know thyself? What is the immediate things that makes the top priority in your life? May be I can remodel the question, “What is the thing that you want to learn?”
Why I am writing this blog? I am little bit of selfish in that .This help me to serve others without any expectations from you because it makes me happy .Scientifically or biologically we are creature of mankind given limited time by nature or may be by God (If you believe in it ). We are here for some reason. Not only to consume are the natural resources .We all brought out I this world by the act of love. In whole life we are looking for love and happiness .We try work hard to and try get the things or resources. Our demands are acquisition based .Once we acquire the thing we don’t feel like happy of get the temporary joy of acquiring the thing. Once we are bored we go for another adventure to get the next thing .This search never end until the bed of death.
Believe me you are not only one in this world to ask this question to yourself. It is perhaps the first step to start loving yourself and start the journey of self-awareness and enjoy the life.
I come across a good to read page on internet I want to share with you who am I? . I would like to share with some on the wonderful quotes on this which may help you have different outlook on who am I?
n Sanskrit there is a word –BhavChakra – It mean wheels of life and it is one of the Buddhist philosophy representing the cycle of conditioned existence, birth and death. It represent the goodness evilness, feeling of happiness and suffering. We find ourselves behaving differently in different situation. Our temperament towards the things changes with passage of time. Things remain the same but our perception of viewing the things changed .Have you ever taken time out to take a long, hard look at your life? By stopping to review all aspects of your life, you can take the first step to addressing imbalance, and move toward leading a more energizing life.
Each one of us been guided by different values and fears or rather says mostly by fears. Fear can be of losing or not being recognized, or being caught or of uncertainty or of unknown. .Reason is best known to individual. Majorly there are three focus of your life and you need to balance these three.
These are just tripod if any leg is week the table won’t be stable. It may be inclined to onside. Some psychologist cover these focus of life as a spokes of a wheel, and you need to rate from 1 to 10 on each spoke and then you need to connect the dots. Because you have different priorities so you will ended up in different shape than a circle .Suppose your Life is vehicle and it has four wheels just like your life wheel as the tires to your vehicle. It means when you have ride your life vehicle car on these kind of non-circular tires your ride won’t be smooth it will experiences lots of jerks and bumps even on straight plain well metaled road .
You need to ask questions from you
To help you understand your preferences, examine your answers or life focus statements for the following words:
Reviewing the different areas of your life can produce surprises. You may find that your big issues don’t look so important when you consider them next to your whole life, which is what achieving work-life balance is all about.
Once I brought two packets of toffees to my elder daughter for her birthday. She wants to distribute toffees in her class. She opened the packet, I asked ,” Why did you open this ?” She said ,” I have 45 class mates , so I need to count these just to make sure I will carry enough toffees with me for them .“ She counted for her school-van friends and her teachers as well . She was right the as packets were marked with weight not by the quantities in it . This is equally applicable to time, we need to know what we have with us, it will help us to manage it .You will say each one has 24 hours what calculation we need that how much time one have, you not only need to know how much time you have but you need to know, how you spend your time , you can’t plan to save time or manage the time unless you make a record of our time or plan your time.
There are various methods to record you time, you may choose to use one, or a combination, of the following methods, you need to make you habit to record your time because it is only habit that keeps you going.
Activity Log: You should start to record for a few days, to build a log of the activities that you engaged during a day. It will help you to paint an picture of what you do during the day, and how you invest your time on each activity . Memory has limitation and it is bad tool to solely depends on your memory. You need to record on papers or if possible use any spread sheet to record this.
Time logs: This is advancement to the previous in this you record the time with activity you engaged in Time logs are used to record the amount of time spent on various activities. You can sub divided the time under each activity , like if you are working on multiple projects keep track of the amount of time you spend, then a time log is a good method..
Calendars: These are more than a simple date calendar, it will help you to coordinate your activities and manage your time over a period of time. It is useful for planning ahead, and keeping track of all of your appointments. It is helpful like major engagements anniversaries, birthdays, celebrations, children school function , Monthly payment of bills .
Office Desktop tools : Lots of desktop monthly planner are in the market which will help you to keep you appointment on time by placing the desktop planner on your desk , you can have inbox /outbox/priority .routine pigeon hole on your Desk . You can use stick-slips as a reminder of your important tasks attached to your computer monitor
Project planners: If you working in a big company you will find there are Project planners who coordinate the activities of a number of people who are all working on the same project for a period of time. There are number o software available to do the planning and scheduling. On the personal level there are several mobile apps available which you can install on your phone, it helps you to ensure that you dedicate you time when it is required .Nothing come easily, no application or software going to work if you don’t commit to yourself and to your routine.
Priority Lists or To-do lists: To-do list is the method of recording the things that need to done over a period of time . Priority list used to set priority of a task over a number of other tasks. First you list out what are the tasks you have to do in a day, then you assign the urgency or priority of the task .Sometimes there may be a case when time is more important than the task .Assigning priority take care of the urgency of the task in terms of time can be used as an immediate record of what needs to be done. Effect of making simple to do list with assigning priority limits its effectiveness
“ No method is bad only applicability of the methods differs and each one has their limitations. it is based on your situation. It is you who decided which method is fitting in your need and providing the information you need. I am sure that these will help you to manage your time and will develop efficient way of working and saving your time.”
One day I was in dining room at my project site camp. I was sharing table with two of my colleague both work in startup group .One was from Iran and another lady was from my home land India. I and the lady had vegetarian meals in the plates and he was eating non vegetarian. They were already discussing about being vegetarian is better or a meat eater is good. She pointed towards my plate and told him ,”Hey, look he also have vegetarian meal”. I told I was previously non-vegetarian but in this project site , I decided to be vegetarian and I haven’t taken any oath that I won’t eat meat .I told that I had quit smoking and drinking alcohol. She was then tease Iranian Guy , “You need to learn from him “, I said but I haven’t quit drinking bear . Now it is his turn to speak out to her,” Now look men will be men. They know the things which are good for them ,so more advice “.
You will surprise why I mention this episode, reason is that we are mostly slave of out habits and it is very difficult to change, if it is easy to change then I won’t be here writing the blog and you won’t be here to read my blog .We know what times mean to us and what is the benefit to manage your time. I had studied the day scheduled of successful people and i found they are no more different than us the difference between them and us is the way they manage their time and action they took
I will assure you once you will undergo this series, you will find that you will empower yourself with new skills and you will get benefited by managing you time ,Time management means staying on top of your time, life, and activities. You may find something or some concepts are not applicable to you. but to practice this is solely depends on you mere studying the concepts does not bring you change but your need to practices the things to get the maximum benefit from this series There are lots of benefits of time management .
You know what are your core drivers and triggers which can results in wastage of time
You may be a father or mother, Brother or sister , you may be a working professional or may be self-employed, you may be a job seeker or may be a house wife , you may be young or old reading this but you undoubtedly have numerous skills to do your job. However, one skill surpasses and affects all others. That skill is the ability to think and act. Your thinking and action are the two most important things to solve any problem. These impact every situation you face, perhaps making the ability to think well the most beneficial and practical skill you can possess.
The best way to enhance the ability to think is small talk to self and being self-critic. It help to direct your thinking in more focused way. I repeatedly put emphasis on the concept that, nobody else than you know you better than anybody. You are the best chef of the food you are cooking in your mind.
How to be you own critic – You need to question your own judgments or action that you are going to take. There is not good or bad thinking .Every thinking has some bases and influential factors .The result depends upon the process you followed to arrive at a conclusion. Nobody can stop the firm resolve of any soul. There are various kinds of persons. Some think and don’t act, some act but put less time on planning. The best is think thousands times before making your decisions and once you decided just stick to it .You need to know what are your core drivers and factors that can lead to a good feedbacks or bad failures ,which are not desirable or expected .
How to maneuver mind strategies – You add value to your thinking process by asking questions to critique your own thinking. It will give to options to see the other faces of the problem. I found when one applies certain strategies in a process to improve your thinking. These strategies that recommend are not a principle of rocket science, I am sure that some of you already know about these.
Applying each of these strategies to your thinking will help improve it in specific ways
I was trained to Organise the brain storming session and I remember one exercise our trainers told us to do ,I will share with you .On the white board one of the instructor wrote down three words ,water , house & glass .He gave each one of us to write down what will be the use of these things . There were 28 participants .After 15 minutes ,they took out the papers and it take more than 3 hours to discuss the uses and new usage of the things .some of the things I never even dreamt of . The reason is total experience in the room was 28x 35 years (average age) and plus of instructor more than 1000 years , and we took only 15 minutes to consolidate in to individual lists thus overall spending 15×28 = 420 minutes, that is 7 hours .
Like cube have six faces , prism has five ,pyramid has four , coin has 3 faces (one cylindrical ), each of the thing or situation have multiple views. So if I am holing only one view I may be not able to see the other face or the thing completely. A problem is multifaceted and can have multilayers. But in order to support you decision you must aware why you are holding that view backed up by sound facts and data. There may be chances that your solution may be the most feasible solution to the problem.
There are elements like Age and family responsibilities , Fear or uncertainty , Past experience or observations ,Cognitive abilities or physical barriers ,Socioeconomic status (SES) ,Personal or influential biases, Behavioral attributes and personal values which influence decision .Cognitive faculties of brain should be more involve than ” I”. But I found that I-Factor is more prominent in decision making. I-factor is egocentric approach to any situation.
Preconceived knowledge, your assumptions, one beliefs and points of view are the key factor which leads to bias .
There are number of occasion in the history which establish the fact that,” When arrogance guides the thought process, it’s hard for reason, logic, or fairness to prevail”. It is evident from the fall of kingdoms and raise of new democracies. That principle is applicable to decision making process when one is prejudiced or opinioned one can’t expect a good decision all the time. It is less likelihood that your gut feeling is always right but one can rely on the decision which is based on sound unbiased thinking, facts and information.
Sometime one may think in terms of absolutes, such as right and wrong or favorable or unfavorable or yes or no sometimes. It is possible that there may be some other alternatives exist, but are overlooked because of this tendency
You must be willing to accept he counter point of view . I remember one incident of my declamation contest when I was in school the winner hasn’t put forth any new point or put only his point of view ,he consider his own point of view and points against his own point of view and found sound reasoning to counter those reasons against to his own motion of house .
Know your assumption for any conclusion and check it that only your assumption or that is assumption accepted to all that may be affected from your decision, ask yourself, what am I assuming? Is my assumption leading me to this conclusion? Are there assumptions underlying this information?
Another way to discourage you to involve in listening mode .There may be some people in your organization or in your relations or in friend circle to whom you are not comfortable .But when they are delivering you some information don’t concentrate on person just concentrate on the information he or she is providing . An unwillingness to listen and engage in the reasoning process can result the ideas, beliefs, or viewpoints of others remained uncounted. I will enlist number of questions that you should work on and write down the responses against each to avoid the bias in the decision in this series .
It is good to know your own beliefs and point of view so that you must be able to find out the counter factors to your view .This need to get overall picture of the situation. I found from my experience that knowing self is hard and it is one of the most difficult thing .Reason behind it is that we always see outside and being influenced by number of external factors, we hardly spend time with us to know our strengths and views
Congratulation to you, you made yourself to walk on the road to more decisive you. Once you are clear about situation or issue or the problem you need to deal and you empower yourself the skill of asking question or rather I say you enhance your capability to know more by increasing your skill to be more inquisitive.
If you have seem a movie of a court case or proceeding or witness any trail you would had seen that the final decision of the decision authority is based on facts, data, evidence, and experiences or observations made by the enquiring officers and as per the provision of the law . In real life we need the same, we need the information gathered and then analyze it to seek the answer or arrive at a solution. It’s important that all information is appropriate, current , clear, and accurate ,though I earlier told that there may be certain factors which affect the quality of judgment of the decision making but information is more crucial .
One can qualify the information and can be able to find the facts, data, evidence which is free from any kind of cognitive bias , this will leads to more accurate disposal of issue or solving any problem . I will share a few tips
We learn as we grow in life, we learn a lot of things by observing and by experiencing , experimenting studying and most by asking questions.
The interrogative pronouns who, what, whom, whose, which and the interrogative adverbs where, when, why and how are used to frame information questions .So ,Why some people gather more information or more response from others?
When somebody asks someone,” Why you ask such a question?” , the other fellow either enquiring or gathering more information about an aspect . Although, the response one get depends on various external factors , Yet if one precisely formulate the structure of the question ,he will get better information.
No doubt about that no question is a silly questions but i am sure that vague questions leads to vague answers .You need to know , why are you asking question ? You should be clearer about you problem or issue .You need to define your purpose and clearly and precisely formulate a question to guide your thinking. In order to do you need to ask a fewer questions from you,
When I was in class eight and live in Kullu . I learn taekwondo for three months .I usually got up and walk for two kilometer to reach the practice ground at lower Dhalpur primary school ground . I with my one of my friend used to go to the training sessions .Our trainer told us to count like hich , ni , sang , shee , go , rukh ,sish ,hachi ,Que .It is just strange language for us . He told us it is Japanese language .if you need to learn taekwondo you need to practice the move with these sound. It is good exercise of control of breath. He always insisted that attacking is the best move for defense. Don’t let your opponent to think .Before he even blink just start kicking and it is good to have good capacity to get hit and keeps moving on . You should not be scared of kicking .At the same time you must analyses the situation .
Our trainers told us to watch how your opponent moves his legs and how he moves his eyes. Just watch closely his face and observe the little change in the expression and when he is about to hit you, you will find his expression will become more intense. He told us don’t be bothered about punch or kick , because once you entered in the ring you won’t be welcome by flowers but just be more aware of expression of your opponent .I was not be able to continue the training to get the black belt .I was still yellow belt . But this lesson helpedme out when after five years I started karatetraining in Agra . I knock down one of the senior green belt player while I was white belt in one of trainingmatch. I still have trust on my UPJAPUSGI kick and basic move of self-defense that I learned in taekwondo training .
Once you are in a decision making phase. First thing you need to know what is the situation, I will share some of my tips ,it may not be exhaustive but I am assure you that it will help you to a greater holistic view of the issue or problem in your hand .all you need a blank paper and pen .
In the center write down the problem and encircle it. Draw separate lines just like spikes coming out of the circles and write down triggers, existing information , personal view , hero’s view , global view , other view , history of events and write down point wise the information in each head ,you may need do the following things .
You are the one who is making decision and if you are not clear about what is the problem and what is the purpose of it you won’t be able to hit the bull’s eye . Questioning is base of getting the information. In the next I will put some material to find out the clear picture about how to ask question and how to find out the purpose of questioning. How to get maximum information out of your questioning?
Never assume that the problem is your inability to comprehend. Chances are the problem just hasn’t been explained properly or clearly so to make it more meaningful, it is your responsibility to make it more clear to you
In my previous blog, you need funds to buy a house .The source of the funds may be your own savings of you can get loan from some financial institutions. Owning a home and living in it is just a different kind of feeling, you may feel that you won a fort in a war and you feel like ownership thrilling .At the same time if you r brain is telling you don’t have enough funds to buy it, the thought of taking a loan or look for a mortgage will kill you feeling of joy.
Like in the previous blog I mentioned that , It is your responsibility to proficiently coordinate all the professionals involve in the process of buying a home .If hired a professional representative or agent who acts on your behalf and for your interests you need to take care of following points .
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