n Sanskrit there is a word –BhavChakra – It mean wheels of life and it is one of the Buddhist philosophy representing the cycle of conditioned existence, birth and death. It represent the goodness evilness, feeling of happiness and suffering. We find ourselves behaving differently in different situation. Our temperament towards the things changes with passage of time. Things remain the same but our perception of viewing the things changed .Have you ever taken time out to take a long, hard look at your life? By stopping to review all aspects of your life, you can take the first step to addressing imbalance, and move toward leading a more energizing life.
Each one of us been guided by different values and fears or rather says mostly by fears. Fear can be of losing or not being recognized, or being caught or of uncertainty or of unknown. .Reason is best known to individual. Majorly there are three focus of your life and you need to balance these three.
- YOUR own focus of basic needs: Health /Food /Shelter /Career / Finances /Money
- YOUR responsibilities focus or social needs: Social Life/ Relationships /Family
- YOUR focus to grow or intellectual needs: Spiritual wellbeing / inner peace /charity /personal growth
These are just tripod if any leg is week the table won’t be stable. It may be inclined to onside. Some psychologist cover these focus of life as a spokes of a wheel, and you need to rate from 1 to 10 on each spoke and then you need to connect the dots. Because you have different priorities so you will ended up in different shape than a circle .Suppose your Life is vehicle and it has four wheels just like your life wheel as the tires to your vehicle. It means when you have ride your life vehicle car on these kind of non-circular tires your ride won’t be smooth it will experiences lots of jerks and bumps even on straight plain well metaled road .
You need to ask questions from you
- What are my aspects of my life in terms of health /Money / finances?
- What I want to achieve in one year / two years / 5 years in my life and what tis more important to me?
- List out the ways by which you can achieve these things?
- Attach a date to your plan? And if you achieve how you going to treat yourself?
- What are my abilities and how can I enhance more skills?
- Based on my abilities and experience, what kind of career I need to have?
- What are really good aspects of your work and the not-so-good aspects ?
- What are my aspirations and my frustrations ?
- What are the factor or triggers that are creating the frustrations? it will help you to determine what’s important.
- You should examine your current financial position, including your expenses and earnings, but you should also consider your future. Think about your attitude toward, and behavior around, money.
- You need to not only think about your physical health, and how you care for yourself but you need to act on what you going to do . This means considering diet, exercise, and opportunities for relaxation.
- Know what kind of social life you want , what kind of relationships you need , what your family is expecting from you ?
- You need to consider all of your relationships, and what they mean to you. So consider your partner, children, family, friends, and work colleagues.
- You need to know what kind of sports you enjoy? What kind of books or activity makes you happy? You need to know what means to you a lot. This might include hobbies, sports, personal development, and meditation and down time for reflection.
To help you understand your preferences, examine your answers or life focus statements for the following words:
- Can, enjoy, like, will, value, and do – These words usually indicate that you are generally satisfied with these aspects of your life.
- Sometimes, maybe, perhaps, or possibly – These words usually mean that you are moderately satisfied with these areas of your life, but there are things that you might change.
- Ought to, can’t, hate, and have to – These words probably mean you are dissatisfied with these aspects of your life.
Reviewing the different areas of your life can produce surprises. You may find that your big issues don’t look so important when you consider them next to your whole life, which is what achieving work-life balance is all about.