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Why do some people fail


To be successful in your life it hardly matter that what the successful persons were doing but it more important to know and learn from the mistake of the others . There are only two classes of people who never make mistakes,—they are the dead and the unborn.

We often go back in memory to some fork of the road in life and think what would have happened and how wondrously better it would have been had we taken the other turning of the road. “If we had learned some other business;” “What happen If I stay in England in 2003;” “If we had married the other one who was my first love ;” “If we had bought stock of leading companies now  5 years back ;” “If i had chosen a different career option or trade;” “If we had only spent certain money in some other way,”—and so we run uselessly our empty train of thought over these slippery “ifs.” That may change the position of ours in present day .But we should  know that there is no mean or way till now that we can go the past and change our already taken options because the  past does not belong to us any longer ; it is only the present that is ours to make as we would wish. The present is raw material; the past is finished product,

In my opinion India is a failed state 80% indian are second class citizen. 90% talent got wasted because of lack of good value and education system .We blame everybody in our life but we fail to blame our self .We fail to choose our role models . I strongly recommend to choose your own heroes of your chosen field as your own life teachers .You must study those icons and their life .You are living in informational age thought  travel faster then the light .You have search engines on the internet  .

You must think I have one life to live and for me all things are possible. What others have done, I can do .How lucky I am to have this optimism Take your quiet time – write your goals – divide the goal in to achievable small goal  with each marked with clear timing and conquer – and start studying your heroes -I mentioned famous people but if you choose to look, there are many wonderful role models all around you  see and you think.

Why do some people fail even if they have all the education talents and abilities ? the biggest reasons is They are afraid to act. They keep asking questions, but they are really hoping for an excuse not to act. Most people will tell you what they think you want to hear. If you act squeamishly, friends and family will tell you to be safe and not buy. There are others who will be jealous of your success and will tell you not to buy. There will be those who really don’t care what you do. They only want an opportunity to tell you either how great they are or how stupid you are.

Man’s attitude towards his  own mistakes has  various reasons  and some are peculiar; some do not see them; some will not see them; some see without changing; some see and deplore, but keep on; some make the same mistakes over and over again, in principle not in form; some blame others for their own mistakes; some condemn others for mistakes seemingly unconscious that they themselves are committing similar ones; some excuse their mistakes by saying that others do the same things, as though a disease were less dangerous when it becomes—epidemic in a community

The worst mistake is to do nothing or to take action based on insufficient information. Research and think. You have investigated Research and think plan and then act have the feedback make improvements again Research and think plan and then act and this cycle should be repeated over time and again

Throwing a ball is an instance of action; it involves an intention, a goal, and a bodily movement guided by the agent. On the other hand, catching a cold is not considered an action because it is something which happens to a person, not something done by one

In physics, action is an attribute of the dynamics of a physical system. It is a mathematical functional which takes the trajectory, also called path or history, of the system as its argument and has a real number as its result. Generally, the action takes different values for different paths. Action has the dimensions of [energy]·[time], and its SI unit is joule-second. This is the same unit as that of angular momentum

Physical laws are frequently expressed as differential equations, which describe how physical quantities such as position and momentum change continuously with time. Given the initial and boundary conditions for the situation, the solution to the equation is a function describing the behavior of the system at all times and all positions within the set boundaries.

In life too you have to  challenge your own boundaries  .You need to be uncomfortable You should involves an intention, a goal, and a bodily movement. You have to take different path.



It is raining heavily in the  Pathankot today and the Civil department has dogged the trench for laying out the sewerage pipe as the old connection which links the colony’s waste pipe to public sewerage system is long blocked That was 4 inch and now they are putting 6-inch sewerage connection. The trench was around one and half feet of width Even in front of min gate yesterday they pipe the pipe and put the soil on it. But with the rain the probability of sinking the car tyre on the covered trench increases . I took the towel on my head and open the front gate .and try to cover the pit with nearby laying tiles and bricks. One of my neighbour thinks if he goes out probably and he has to open the gate by himself and in event of that he might be wet by rain. , He thinks that he is too smart and be able to  cross the trench and before even I realise he start moving his car towards the main gate I give sign to stop . but he ignored and as his car touch the corner of the trench his bumper stuck to the other side of the trench and front tires of the car sink in the trench. It took fifteen minute to take is car out. He created trouble or himself and for the others also. This is due to OVER CONFIDENCE.

I remember one old story that once told to me by a train mate which is worth reading,

This a story of a crow. Like all fable it goes like this once there was Crow. He is different from other crows and always try to dominate the discussions among his friends. He wins all the augments and this made him very over confident and he thinks whatever he thinks is the best and he has brain superior than others. The winter was coming and he trying to fly to the south. It was so cold.

The sun was shining very low and soon he finds a dead mouse on the ground. He picks that up and start flying again. But after a moment he feel insecure as an eagle is flying on his head. He wants to have some place to hide himself. he saw on the ground that there was a farmer’s field and me cows are tied at the back side of cottage. and side by there is hay stock. he throws the rat in to the hay-stock and thought that the will find it afterwards once he saves his life from eagle flying on his head as a messenger of death.

He saw that landed back side of the cow. He sits on the pile of the dung It was thawing and feel warmth of the dung as he landed there he ask the cow, oh dear could you help me to g=ide and throw some dung on me. cow was happy to help him. cow drop a piece if shit on him. He lay there all warm and happy His head was out of the dung but his body ws in the pile of dung .and the eagle count able to find him. Eagle flew away. He was so smart that he thought probable he will sits in the pile of dung for some more time. he said to cow to drop another piece of dung on him. but with next drop of dung he lost his breath and not able free his wings It was too heavy to lift. More he struggles to come out more he was going in and soon he left his last breath in the pile of shit.
THE OVER CONFINDENCE LEADS YOU to the BAD Decisions and sometime it TURN OUT to be FATAL


Letter to my Daughter Ashley …..2019

Hi Ashley
This is your first birthday and congratulations to you to complete one revolutions around our star call SUN I don’t know when you will find this letter . I and your mom together have 3/4 quarter of century of experience. Some we gather from education and from our surrounding some we individually learned from our first-hand experience of the world .
Your mom and we both lived in different worlds She has acquired her own unique way of thinking and I do have some other. when you grow up you might found us living together more than 15 year but still we were fighting each other on small things Kid this is not a fight but difference of opinions.

We made our opinion based on out previous skills or education or set of beliefs which we created ourselves in our mind and most of us as human being don’t want to challenge them or reluctant to change. A Father I must tell you that ONLY thing which is permanent is the CHANGe you must face the change and embrace it. Dear Ashley over the years again and again I realise that we try to control the things which are not in control. One must Worry about the THings which he or She can control. So the understanding what are your capabilities mentally and physically gives you courge to face the odds . when one try to change the THings beyond his or her control oNLY one result is certain that is FrUStrations and Negativity .

Ashley I had seen people debating about the non-renewable resources and the the alternative greener technology so that we can preserve the Planet That we called Mother Earth . that is very much needed But along with sound understanding that you should be more accountable for your TIME . we all have define span of life I might be dead after 10 years 20 years or 50 years but that is certain unless some breakthrough comes in the medical technology technique. So You should Effectively use YOur time. Once time gone it won’t come Back only place where one can turn the time back till now is in science fiction fIlms .

This time you might be listening voices which may be strange to YOU but as you grow up you will find the medium of communication Which we a human developed over the centuries and is an important instrument of change and passing knowledge from one generation to another .i found Today we are living in technological advance era most of knowledge we get from digital space . you might see that your peers gluing to mobile phones tablet or laptops. one must learn to spend some time alone in the lap of Mother Nature and go out to inhale fresh oxygen. I doubt when you might be reading this the quality air of the world may be much worse than now. I feel apology from our generations which has created some many new things but spoiled the naturally available free sources.

Another thing I want to tell you dear Ashley that most of people fear. This is negative as well positive force in one’s mind. People limit themselves and don’t do the things or even attempt the things I assure you that. “There is not anything like FEaR in this world if your MiND is determined so always push your limits  and challenge the old beliefs . “Ask questions people might feel that you may be dumbest of all but keep, learning new things .

We as human feel adventures by attempting various kind of sports ,racing cars at very high speed , jumping from high altitude , diving deep in to the ocean trying to explore the unknow but before attempting the first principle is SAFTEY . You HAVE got only ONE chance to live on this world so strengthen your body and mind an d calculate the risk .

From some years from this age you found a commodity CALled MONEY . In earlier time people exchange the things and get the things from others under Barater system . But SO called leaders ( people with mental and physical strengths ) devices the system of exchange the things THrough a commodity they coined world MoNey for it . Dear money  is not everything in the life but with this one can be able to get or purchase the things which one desired . So one must be MONey wise and know how to spend wisely to get best VALUE out of the PRiCe . So when you grow up you may need to opt for a profession or to start some work to earn money .

As you grow further up you might find that this planet Earth is not one but divided by the humans into continents countries States districts blocks villages streets . Even the human race is divided in to various castes creeds religion and cultures . Ashley To leave YOUR mark on this plant YOU must have one thing I your mind that is to adopt the things which appeals to you and DO the things or choose the profession which you love to do. Don’t be in the herd or in the RAt race . People say man is rational animal but I truly found that rather than ration man is rationalising animal who according to his / her believe bend the acts In his/ her own version and  even justify the wrong things . 

when you seek the truth don’t look in the outer world .the factually truth are only made by man e.g if on standing if you face the sun than your front is east your back is west and so on… but some time I wonder how a heavenly body like earth have precise east west or north or south . Don’t feel to assimilate contrarian point of view .

Your TrUe companion will be ONlY you and next one best are the dead . You might laugh why DEADs . I am talking about the treasures of knowledge left by the legends in various fields. You may be able to build your own road but travelling by already made metal road may save You time and resources. finds the best books and find time to read them NOT only read but to implement them in your habits. Knowledge without action is worthless. Action create the movement and movement give you the clarity. You must make list of things you want to do I. Your life and add time stamps on each of them. And take actions. During taking action if you feel there might be best alternative available than go for that .

I don’t know what will be written by the supreme power in your future but one thing is sure that past is the time we won’t be able to change only seeing back is good when we are driving vehicle on the road and good for looking back in to the oceans of memories to learn the lessons from the mistakes of ours and from others .Ashley I recommend you to live in the present and enjoy the most and invest your time money and efforts in the field where you find your interest is . Our mind has millions and trillions of neurons which give energy to our brain. You should train your brain to take analytical decisions. In the situation when you might be in doubt I urge you to called for a question that what will be happened in the worst case if I took this case and next if worst case happen would I will be able to to handle that if your answer is YES than just take the ACTIOn . action is sure shot medicine to the fear .

Ashley we love you very much your sisters Gloria and Angelina are the best sisters of the world . Your mom is also very caring but as a father I am learning a lot and certainly able to cook delicious  food as this is my hobby .

Ashley I want to tell you that There is something more powerful than we all exist in this universe which can’t be named and explained with the limited knowledge however when you grow up you might be able to listen to various faiths and religions and their version of this supreme power to that we Called GOD .so one must feel gratitude to him for this precious gift of life and this life is very beautiful and blissful if one take care of it by staying healthy  .

When you born people feel sorry for us that we got third kid as a daughter but dear Ashley I will tell you that you must not be shamed yourself of being female. You are the creator of the universe. We as a parent feel more than happy to receive another gift from the supreme power and we want you to take the  life easily and live happily and God bless you with good health .

Heroes Beyond Borders :3: Seth Godin

July 1987 ,Our Family was bestowed with gift from god and  gift was birth of my younger Brother ,to whom I love .He was little he was funny and the best thing is i was no longer the youngest member in my family .  I become more responsible about taking responsibility and caring.

July is important as in this month one great thinker born in who missed out Initial shots in INTERNET ERA He was Kicked off from Direct Marketing association and he form the idea of permission marketing ,He is none other than Seth Godin .He is really deserve to be in my HERO beyond Borders. He is blogging from more than 26 years.



“I think the most productive thing to do during times of change is to be your best self, not the best version of someone else”
You are at your best when YOU are just YOU. You are more convincing and people around you trust you more support you more if your actions are reflections of your originality .That’s why initial idea always flourish .

“Dig your well before you’re thirsty”

It will give you a more leverage no matter it might be growing YOURSELF professionally or personally. WE can see the power of small saving schemes ,raising the kids with ethics .people might laugh at YOU but you know it and believe in your GUTS .This is supported in the bestselling book on “Dig your well before you’re thirsty” by Harvey Mackay . In which he explain your readiness and preparation for your personal or professional success by the power of inter connections and networking

“You have everything you need to build something far bigger than yourself”

YOU are the BEST creation of the almighty. NOBODY can stop YOU becoming BIG create NEW explore NEW or UNKNOWN. your impact is GREATER than you think in this Shrinking era of DIGITAL world. Your BEST Product is YOU . You was created by your parents but becoming best version of you ,you don’t require anything other than YOU.


“Faith in yourself, in your friends, in your colleagues and most of all, faith in your ability to impact our future is the best strategy I know”.

In bible Matthew 13.31 it is written that “. The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed that a man planted in his field” and that seed is FAITH and the field is ones mind.

  “Game of monopoly every time give you a new opening to start from scratch and plan your new strategy “

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Heroes Beyond Borders :2: Dr BR Ambedkar

On 14 April i.e one legend was born .His name was Bhimrao …..Later he turned out to be one of the greatest Scholar of all times ,Who was major architect to create constitution of INDIA and work for unprivileged sections of Society and still are consider untouchables in certain part of India .

People  even went to western countries learn new things but they are still in glitches of narrow-mindedness of  cast-ism and narrow mindedness.
I would like to share his inspirational immortal beautiful thoughts ….which I think are more practical teaching than any of the religious books ….

” Life should be great rather than long.”
Know Why you are here What are YOU doing ….Make YOUSELF accountable for YOU and take some action
“I like the religion that teaches liberty, equality and fraternity.”
There no BAD religion in the town only the interpreters or followers can be misguided

“I measure the progress of a community by the degree of progress which women have achieved.”

“Cultivation of mind should be the ultimate aim of human existence.”

“Men are mortal. So are ideas. An idea needs propagation as much as a plant needs watering. Otherwise both will wither and die.”

Do something … Create Something … Share Something …. May be some day somewhere…. it will inspire Someone ….. Your digital words have unimaginable lasting effects …..

“The relationship between husband and wife should be one of closest friends.”
Sparing sometime is easy once you are in initial years of marriage but as the time goes you don’t find time to spend with your soulmate …Do it NOW …. Your never know Tomorrow You will see the rising SUN or NOT
“So long as you do not achieve social liberty, whatever freedom is provided by the law is of no avail to you.”

I would like to add here social liberty of society can’t be achieved without increasing economic security as Dr Ambedkar himself that told once if there is fight between ethics and money most of the times money wins … that is the root cause of all social evils like pollution , corruption and so on …

“Law and order are the medicine of the body politic and when the body politic gets sick, medicine must be administered.”
But like medicines it does not cure the cause but suppress for some time complete eradication can be difficult and only be archived by changing ones. Habits and rituals

“Political tyranny is nothing compared to the social tyranny and a reformer who defies society is a more courageous man than a politician who defies Government.”
World is changing and even when you are sleeping or gossiping What you do where do you live Who you are doesn’t matter if you are not doing something to change you … You can’t change the world alone but you can change You … and I would appreciate your small change which will help You or the things or people around YOU ….For me You are champion .. If nobody cares about You or recognize your effort still You are doing great …

If You are not doing anything ….. Still world is  changing but your stack in it …. Believe me you are nothing more than a count in population and ….. in other words  a liability on the earth ……


Self-Awareness: 1: Who am I?


You are nothing but a piece of shit .if you think so .The world doesn’t care who you are what do you do? What do you eat? Where you live? What are your living standards or living style? .If you don’t have standards for you .However it is good to know “Who I am?” as well good news is that you can lead yourself to journey with me which can leads you find who you are ?

I will make that easy for you .I can’t change you or transformed you. What I can help you is to ascertain what are the values that you live by and can help you to shift your focus from the things which you do in your daily routine that can leads you to in a sphere where you can meet your true self .

If you are here on this blog. I will take care of you.  I will start slow and simple tasks or may be performing certain activities but to explore the things you need to know why you want to know thyself? What is the immediate things that makes the top priority in your life? May be I can remodel the question, “What is the thing that you want to learn?”

Why I am writing this blog? I am little bit of selfish in that  .This help me  to serve others without any expectations from you because it makes me happy .Scientifically or biologically we are creature of mankind given limited time by nature or may be by God (If you believe in it ). We are here for some reason. Not only to consume are the natural resources .We all brought out I this world by the act of love. In whole life we are looking for love and happiness .We try work hard to and try get the things or resources. Our demands are acquisition based .Once we acquire the thing we don’t feel like happy of get the temporary joy of acquiring the thing. Once we are bored we go for another adventure to get the next thing .This search never end until the bed of death.

Believe me you are not only one in this world to ask this question to yourself. It is perhaps the first step to start loving yourself and start the journey of self-awareness and enjoy the life.

I come across a good to read page on internet I want to share with you who am I?  . I would like to share with some on the wonderful quotes on this which may help you have different outlook on who am I?

You and your Time: 4: How to balance Life

n Sanskrit there is a word –BhavChakra – It mean wheels of life and it is one of the Buddhist philosophy representing the cycle of conditioned existence, birth and death. It represent the goodness evilness, feeling of happiness and suffering. We find ourselves behaving differently in different situation. Our temperament towards the things changes with passage of time. Things remain the same but our perception of viewing the things changed .Have you ever taken time out to take a long, hard look at your life? By stopping to review all aspects of your life, you can take the first step to addressing imbalance, and move toward leading a more energizing life.

Each one of us been guided by different values and fears or rather says mostly by fears. Fear can be of losing or not being recognized, or being caught or of uncertainty or of unknown. .Reason is best known to individual. Majorly there are three focus of your life and you need to balance these three.

  • YOUR own focus of basic needs: Health /Food /Shelter /Career / Finances /Money
  • YOUR responsibilities focus or social needs: Social Life/ Relationships /Family
  • YOUR focus to grow or intellectual needs: Spiritual wellbeing / inner peace /charity /personal growth

These are just tripod if any leg is week the table won’t be stable. It may be inclined to onside. Some psychologist cover these focus of life as a spokes of a wheel, and you need to rate from 1 to 10 on each spoke and then you need to connect the dots. Because you have different priorities so you will ended up in different shape than a circle .Suppose your Life is vehicle and it has four wheels just like your life wheel as the tires to your vehicle. It means when you have ride your life vehicle  car on these kind of non-circular tires your ride won’t be smooth it will experiences lots of jerks and bumps even on straight plain well metaled road .

You need to ask questions from you

  • What are my aspects of my life in terms of health /Money / finances?
  • What I want to achieve in one year / two years / 5 years in my life and what tis more important to me?
  • List out the ways by which you can achieve these things?
  • Attach a date to your plan? And if you achieve how you going to treat yourself?
  • What are my abilities and how can I enhance more skills?
  • Based on my abilities and experience, what kind of career I need to have?
  • What are really good aspects of your work and the not-so-good aspects ?
  • What are my aspirations and my frustrations ?
  • What are the factor or triggers that are creating the frustrations? it will help you to determine what’s important.
  • You should examine your current financial position, including your expenses and earnings, but you should also consider your future. Think about your attitude toward, and behavior around, money.
  • You need to not only think about your physical health, and how you care for yourself but you need to act on what you going to do . This means considering diet, exercise, and opportunities for relaxation.
  • Know what kind of social life you want , what kind of relationships you need , what your family is expecting from you ?
  • You need to consider all of your relationships, and what they mean to you. So consider your partner, children, family, friends, and work colleagues.
  • You need to know what kind of sports you enjoy? What kind of books or activity makes you happy? You need to know what means to you a lot. This might include hobbies, sports, personal development, and meditation and down time for reflection.

To help you understand your preferences, examine your answers or life focus statements for the following words:

  • Can, enjoy, like, will, value, and do – These words usually indicate that you are generally satisfied with these aspects of your life.
  • Sometimes, maybe, perhaps, or possibly – These words usually mean that you are moderately satisfied with these areas of your life, but there are things that you might change.
  • Ought to, can’t, hate, and have to – These words probably mean you are dissatisfied with these aspects of your life.

Reviewing the different areas of your life can produce surprises. You may find that your big issues don’t look so important when you consider them next to your whole life, which is what achieving work-life balance is all about.

You and your Time: 3: How to Record your time

Once I brought two packets of toffees to my elder daughter for her birthday. She wants to distribute toffees in her class. She opened the packet, I asked ,” Why did you open this ?” She said ,” I have 45 class mates , so I need to count these just to make sure I will carry enough toffees with me for them .“ She counted for her school-van friends and her teachers as well . She was right the as packets were marked with weight not by the quantities in it . This is equally applicable to time, we need to know what we have with us, it will help us to manage it .You will say each one has 24 hours what calculation we need that how much time one have, you not only need to know how much time you have but you need to know, how you spend your time , you can’t plan to save time or manage the time unless you make a record of our time or plan your time.

There are various methods to record you time, you may choose to use one, or a combination, of the following methods, you need to make you habit to record your time because it is only habit that keeps you going.

Activity Log: You should start to record for a few days, to build a log of the activities that you engaged during a day. It will help you to paint an picture of what you do during the day, and how you invest your time on each activity . Memory has limitation and it is bad tool to solely depends on your memory. You need to record on papers or if possible use any spread sheet to record this.

Time logs: This is advancement to the previous in this you record the time with activity you engaged in Time logs are used to record the amount of time spent on various activities. You can sub divided the time under each activity , like if you are working on multiple projects keep track of the amount of time you spend, then a time log is a good method..

Calendars: These are more than a simple date calendar, it will help you to coordinate your activities and manage your time over a period of time. It is useful for planning ahead, and keeping track of all of your appointments. It is helpful like major engagements anniversaries, birthdays, celebrations, children school function , Monthly payment of bills .

Office Desktop tools : Lots of desktop monthly planner are in the market which will help you to keep you appointment on time by placing the desktop planner on your desk , you can have inbox /outbox/priority .routine pigeon hole on your Desk . You can use stick-slips as a reminder of your important tasks attached to your computer monitor

Project planners: If you working in a big company you will find there are Project planners who coordinate the activities of a number of people who are all working on the same project for a period of time. There are number o software available to do the planning and scheduling. On the personal level there are several mobile apps available which you can install on your phone, it helps you to ensure that you dedicate you time when it is required .Nothing come easily, no application or software going to work if you don’t commit to yourself and to your routine.

Priority Lists or To-do lists: To-do list is the method of recording the things that need to done over a period of time . Priority list used to set priority of a task over a number of other tasks. First you list out what are the tasks you have to do in a day, then you assign the urgency or priority of the task .Sometimes there may be a case when time is more important than the task .Assigning priority take care of the urgency of the task in terms of time can be used as an immediate record of what needs to be done. Effect of making simple to do list with assigning priority limits its effectiveness

“ No method is bad only applicability of the methods differs and each one has their limitations. it is based on your situation. It is you who decided which method is fitting in your need and providing the information you need. I am sure that these will help you to manage your time and will develop efficient way of working and saving your time.”

You and your Time: 2: Know your Personality

We are not what we born, we are what we learn and observe throughout our life , people claim they know the world but it is most of them spent their life in delusion with the perception that was told to them by others about them . I would like to share some of the key concepts formed by Carl Jung , German psychologist in 1921 , proposed the existence of two dichotomous pairs of cognitive functions, first is  “rational” function which involve  thinking and feeling [thinking is function of intellectual cognition it help in  the forming the logical conclusions  & feeling is function of subjective estimation]and second is  “irrational”  function  involving  sensation and intuition[ Sensation means observance or perception by means of the sense organs &  intuition is  perceiving in unconscious way or perception of unconscious contents]

Last two are information-gathering and former are decision-making (judging) functions. He said that we have two kind of attitudes either extravert or introvert and he listed out the  main difference between these two :

  • Extraverts are action-oriented, while introverts are thought-oriented.
  • Extraverts seek breadth of knowledge and influence, while introverts seek depth of knowledge and influence.
  • Extraverts often prefer more frequent interaction, while introverts prefer more substantial interaction.
  • Extraverts recharge and get their energy from spending time with people, while introverts recharge and get their energy from spending time alone

The four functions operate in conjunction with the attitudes (extraversion and introversion). And based on the concepts Individual can be Control oriented, idea oriented, people oriented or structure oriented , when you know what kind of personality you will be able to focus the what kind of strategy you need to adopt to discipline yourself . It is always happened when someone other want to control other fellow there is always kind of resistance , it will happen to you as well even when you want to change your body will some time not cooperate with you . I find very difficult to get up early in the morning I need to reason with my mind sometime. I said ,” Mr.Mind Just keep you mouth shut, I have to do it and I am going to do it. I will talk to you once I am done with it “.And when I complete the thing I don’t find my mind is there to reason me .so the best thing is to do and take action .

Features of person having governor approach: They love to control the situation. This person took responsibility mostly voluntarily. They look for only few or often without any consultation based on their own expertise they make the decision .People see them sometime impose their orders or dominate them .They are multitasking leaders with force personality.

Time management tip :This kind of person need to know the risks and impacts of hasty decisions. They should devote time to improve on their listening ability as opinions of others can be good and need to be appreciated,. Control approach person must inculcate the habit to invite proposals, ideas and thoughts wherever possible. It will improve the effectiveness of the decision

Features of person having idea oriented approach: These creative people find innovative methods to solve any problem but at the same they easily get bored because they need variety and do not struck to a single idea attracted by new approaches. Most of them have a tendency to leave lots of things unfinished because they get bored

Time management tip :This kind of person needs constant motivation and if possible one need to generate the inspiration from within oneself. Their work should be divided in to small time bound tasks.

Features of person having people oriented approach: These are pleasers and sensitive people concerned about others and like to please them. They are not persuaders and easily get influenced by others. These are less confident people and sometimes these can be indecisive. It took time for them to make understand other their own view point

Time management tip: This person need to set his own dead line and stick to it .He should focus on his strength. One need to be more communicative and invest=gate the things in deep before taking new responsibly and value his own time. This personnel to be take less person and need that he should not take everything in emotional way.

Features of person having structured oriented approach: These are orthodox people they like the things to be carefully planned and expect clear instructions from others .They are not flexible as the Idea oriented people and resist the immediately to change .They are detailed oriented people , rational and fair and try to record everything .There may be time when one consider them as slow and has ;tendency to micro-manage detail

Time management tip: They need to understand the balance of planning and time in doing the things .They need to be more flexible and try to work in different ways to do the task .Planning time is important but execution is equally important , unless we took action we don’t able to gauge the effectiveness of the planning

You and your Time: 1: Benefits of Time Management

One day I was in dining room at my project site camp. I was sharing table with two of my colleague both work in startup group .One was from Iran and another lady was from my home land India. I and the lady had vegetarian meals in the plates and he was eating non vegetarian. They were already discussing about being vegetarian is better or a meat eater is good. She pointed towards my plate and told him ,”Hey, look he also have vegetarian meal”. I told I was previously non-vegetarian but in this project site , I decided to be vegetarian and I haven’t taken any oath that I won’t eat meat .I told that I had quit smoking and drinking alcohol. She was then tease Iranian Guy , “You need to learn from him “, I said but I haven’t quit drinking bear . Now it is his turn to speak out to her,” Now look men will be men. They know the things which are good for them ,so more advice “.

You will surprise why I mention this episode, reason is that we are mostly slave of out habits and it is very difficult to change, if it is easy to change then I won’t be here writing the blog and you won’t be here to read my blog .We know what times mean to us and what is the benefit to manage your time. I had studied the day scheduled of successful people and i found they are no more different than us the difference between them and us is the way they manage their time and action they took

I will assure you once you will undergo this series, you will find that you will empower yourself with new skills and you will get benefited by managing you time ,Time management means staying on top of your time, life, and activities. You may find something or some concepts are not applicable to you. but to practice this is solely depends on you mere studying the concepts does not bring you change but your need to practices the things to get the maximum benefit from this series There are lots of benefits of time management .

  • You will be more in control of personnel life
  • We will feel that we are more satisfied by judicially giving time to work and to family
  • You become more effective communicator and attain a focused approach to the things
  • You will be more happy and fresh and it will leads to better life with fulfillment
  • You are able to better manage your workload
  • People will see you are a role model despite of all the pressure you manage the things.
  • Your relationships with the people around improve.
  • You will find time to grow yourself mentally and physically.
  • It will allows you to spend your time on the things that matter most to you
  • It saves lots of efforts of rework and efforts, thus saving your money.
  • Being on top of your time and work produces more opportunities
  • You will find you are in better control your destiny than others
  • Time is inversely proportional to your stress level more availability of time means reduction in your stress level.
  • You will value the time of the others and mastering the skill to manage the relations.

You know what are your core drivers and triggers which can results in wastage of time

More Decisive You :7: Decision is a game of mind and application of strategies to your thinking

You may be a father or mother, Brother or sister , you may be a working professional or may be self-employed, you may be a job seeker or may be a house wife , you may be young or old reading this but you undoubtedly have numerous skills to do your job. However, one skill surpasses and affects all others. That skill is the ability to think and act. Your thinking and action are the two most important things to solve any problem. These impact every situation you face, perhaps making the ability to think well the most beneficial and practical skill you can possess.

The best way to enhance the ability to think is small talk to self and being self-critic. It help to direct your thinking in more focused way. I repeatedly put emphasis on the concept that, nobody else than you know you better than anybody. You are the best chef of the food you are cooking in your mind.

How to be you own critic   – You need to question your own judgments or action that you are going to take. There is not good or bad thinking .Every thinking has some bases and influential factors .The result depends upon the process you followed to arrive at a conclusion. Nobody can stop the firm resolve of any soul. There are various kinds of persons. Some think and don’t act, some act but put less time on planning. The best is think thousands times before making your decisions and once you decided just stick to it .You need to know what are your core drivers and factors that can lead to a good feedbacks or bad failures  ,which are not desirable or expected .

How to maneuver mind strategiesYou add value to your thinking process by asking questions to critique your own thinking. It will give to options to see the other faces of the problem. I found when one applies certain strategies in a process to improve your thinking. These strategies that recommend are not a principle of rocket science, I am sure that some of you already know about these.

  • You must have clear about your thing rather vague thinking.
  • You focus must be focused – by this I just want to put emphasis that you need to focus on what is relevant.
  • We have already discussed in previous blog the how to formulate effective question results you effective information which is precise and relevant to issue .it will help in forming a better solution to a problem.
  • Diverge and converge – this lets you to find out various alternative views and then converges to a statement which is most suitable and explanatory to understand the concept, describe a problem or form a solution .
  • SWOT analysis by this one can view situation in strength – weakness- opportunities & threats .One can enlists pointwise against each of the heads. I found this tool is beneficial in any kind of situations .
  • STAR analysis, this acronym stood for –situation – task –action- resolution. This is another tool that decision maker use to find the resolution of an issue and action .The heads are self-explanatory .

Applying each of these strategies to your thinking will help improve it in specific ways

More Decisive You:6:How to identify your point of view?

I was trained to Organise the brain storming session and I remember one exercise our trainers told us to do ,I will share with you .On the white board one of the instructor wrote down three words ,water , house & glass .He gave each one of us to write down what will be the use of these things . There were 28 participants .After 15 minutes ,they took out the papers and it take more than 3 hours to discuss the uses and new usage of the things .some of the things I never even dreamt of . The reason is total experience in the room was 28x 35 years (average age) and plus of instructor more than 1000 years , and we took only 15 minutes to consolidate in to individual lists thus overall spending 15×28 = 420 minutes, that is 7 hours .

Like cube have six faces , prism has five ,pyramid has four , coin has 3 faces (one cylindrical ), each of the thing or situation have multiple views. So if I am holing only one view I may be not able to see the other face or the thing completely. A problem is multifaceted and can have multilayers. But in order to support you decision you must aware why you are holding that view backed up by sound facts and data. There may be chances that your solution may be the most feasible solution to the problem.

  • Do I understand the problem?
  • What are the things that I don’t understand about the problem?
  • If, I am the only one who will be affected person by these decisions, what will be more favorable outcome of the situation?
  • If, I don’t have to put brain or logic what will be my emotional response to the situation?
  • If, I have to put brain or logic what will be my emotional response to the situation?
  • Is my understanding the only reasonable view?
  • What are assumptions I am making that are influencing how I understand this?
  • Does my view ignore anything?
  • Look at the problem or issue from other points of view
  • Do I have information from all relevant points of view?
  • Are there other ways of looking at this issue that I’ve not yet considered?
  • Consider how your assumptions may be impacting your point of view/
  • What are factor you are considering to frame your view ?
  • What are the theories or concepts you are using or that need to be applied to your point of view?
  • How credible those concepts or philosophies that make your point of view ?